Sometimes a well planned for Monday becomes a Wednesday.

We set out with good intentions- wanting to develop patterns and habits sometimes for the purpose of shaping or maintaining dare I say “a life well lived”. Maybe these are beliefs that we hold true for ourselves- like if I am to be professional and create a business that is successful I will develop a schedule which includes meditation, reading, blogging, exercise (cause healthy body=healthy mind), networking, researching and so on and so on. We do this for our professional lives and our personal lives. We probably do it more often now-a-days with social media working ever so hard to convince or remind us of what our life should look like.

What should our lives look like? Well I do believe that they should be in order and include some schedule and routine BUT sometimes today really does become tomorrow and its well-intentioned and that is ok! Unlike the phrase “don’t put off for tomorrow what you can do today”…… whoops. Well now that Im in tomorrow instead of today it has me thinking that its ok. Its ok that I didn’t write this blog post on Monday when I did in fact have the time- I mean who am I kidding? I have time, you have time, we all have time. We like to tell ourselves and most often other people- so they know how busy we are- that we just don’t have the time or that we are tired. But the truth is that our life is a collection of what we have created, what we feel and what we think. If we think we are busy and that life is just so hard! Then wahla!

It is time that we stop allowing ourselves to think that we are too busy to get things done or too busy to relax or too busy to meet up with a friend or to start a blog or invest in a business or go for a walk or volunteer or apply to a new job or go to college and the list goes on and on and on then….wahla! Sometimes if you want something- get it/do it applies and sometimes its ok to do it tomorrow but stop telling yourself (and others) that its because you didn’t have time. You chose!

MONDAY (yes its Wednesday) MANTRA: I have the ability to create my life and I take responsibility for my time and my choices.


*close your eyes, breathe in your nose (to the count of four) and then out your mouth (to the count of four) and say to yourself: Even though I am struggling I completely and totally accept myself. Repeat this three times.

Not Your Average Monday

People are generally open to trying new things.



Most people who I interact with have either been through substantial change or are going through substantial change. I was tempted to change that sentence to read “everyone” instead of “most” however, I don’t interact with everyone in a way that allows me to be sure of the validity of the first sentence. As a licensed counselor, I like to think of myself as a change-agent. I also pride myself on being receptive and welcoming to change. That’s one of the factors that helps me to be able to successfully assist others through their change.

Adaptation. This is what sets those who do handle change apart from those who do not. Are you able to adapt to the challenges that life presents? The reality is that there will most certainly be change in your life but can you or should I say will you adapt? You can adapt and you probably, if you think long and hard, have some pretty good ideas of what to do to help yourself. Some of those ideas might sound like “I should really take a vacation” or “I should get a massage” or “I should sort through my things and donate what is unneeded” (clutter adds stress, but that’s a whole ‘nother post on its own) or “I should really talk to her about boundaries” and the list goes on and on and on. The truth is that most people really do have a good idea about what they should be doing to care for themselves.

Application. The willingness to follow through on what you know you need to do to care for yourself is the next step. That thought that keeps playing in your mind of what you should do for self-care…yea…you know what it is. Do it. Decide now that you will give yourself three days to schedule that massage or set a date to talk to that someone about some good ole’ boundaries. But if you really aren’t sure what to do for self-care ask a trusted friend or loved one. Support is crucial. Learning to or letting people care for us is not always easy but it is a part of the master plan.

What’s this master plan I speak of? Well as humans we are relational beings. We sometimes, every once in a while, ok so more often than not…we kind of stink at it but we know we need one another and we thrive off of connection. If you don’t have a sturdy someone special in your life research a good therapist (wink, wink- that would be me) and schedule some time to connect with someone who can help you to create some space in your life where you are able to adjust to change and the challenges of life.



*close your eyes, breathe in your nose (to the count of four) and then out your mouth (to the count of four) and say to yourself: Even though I am struggling I completely and totally accept myself. Repeat this three times.